Breathe. Sit Down. Listen.

If a person of color opens up to you about their experiences, they have a level of trust in you as an individual. There is no need to put yourself at the center and offer anecdotes to show how YOU are “not like that”. Also, there is no quicker way to derail your friend’s point.

And if you don’t see color, there is no need to balance the scales with the “not all whites”, “not all men”, “not all police officers”, sentiments when activists initiate discussions about systemic oppression. We all live in the same society and are surrounded by mainstream news media. The greater society has, does and will make that point to all of us every day without your help.

For real, it’s HARD to realize when the reason we are squirming is because for once, whether or not our feelings will be hurt is not the central most important thing in any conversation. It stops feeling right somehow! What we ARE used to, is feeling benevolent because we are engaged in the conversation, at all.

As non-POC, nothing prepares us for having to suppress our own natural tendency to take offense. To learn how to do that, we need only ask a member of any oppressed group. To keep a job, be a customer, walk down the street, live life, lesson the chances of getting thrown in jail for nothing – for them, it is a necessary skill.

Ask:

How on earth do you avoid getting offended all the time with:
**Assumptions made about your opinions, because you are a member of this or that group?
**Assumptions made about your interests, because you are a member of this or that group?
**Ignorant questions asked of you?
**Generalizations made in your presence?

They might agree to school you. Or better yet, do your own research.

Point is: We aren’t used to it. It’s hard to realize how quickly we rise to our own defense when the conversation does not have straight, white society at the center. Our peace is disturbed. Stop it. Step down a peg. Take a seat.

 

Why White People Shouldn’t Impose Their Feelings Into Conversations on Race

Find Out the Truth

Our mind and your concerns are managed, when they fall in an area that threatens the powerful. It takes concerted effort to break out and get a more accurate picture. I will give you an example.

Those who favor healthcare as a right, outvoted others by at least a few million. So naturally, there are huge movements to save healthcare.

Yesterday, as an opening shot, there were rallies – big rallies. I know it did not come up on my news, but What came up on my news was this headline: “Trump Promises ‘Insurance for Everybody’ as Health Law Replacement”. What comes up on my news is that it is bound to happen and already in progress.

I knew of the rallies so I searched for them specifically. With a little trouble, I did find many articles. They were carefully crafted headlines that minimized the scope of the resistance. Most telling, was that most of THOSE articles had photo coverage limited to close-ups of Bernie hunched over the podium, or of two people walking holding up a sign.

So a person whose online profile clearly favors healthcare as a right, who thinks THAT is where my taxes should be going, not to war, like me – I get a very skewed picture. It is a demoralizing picture that misleads me as to what is going on. Here, after a long search, is a decent article.

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/politics/ct-bernie-sanders-michigan-healthcare-rally-20170115-story.html

 

Get involved, find out what is going on. There IS hope.

Oregon’s Bundy Brothers? No Charges

National Guard? Tanks? Fire hoses? Burning the building down? I don’t wish this. I practice and believe in non-violence.

But when authorities kill the innocent or execute those guilty of the pettiest of property crimes, this is what peaceful protesters face…No one cares if ‘Hands up don’t shoot’ or ‘I can’t breathe.’..in a country where the right to peacefully protest is guaranteed, as is the right to survive and have a fair trial.

Are there FBI plants breaking through barriers, inciting this situation to tip over? Unnecessary. It HAS tipped over. But no one used it as an excuse for public executions.

Public schools are closed! Townspeople are FURIOUS. Violent bullies upset over the effects of property laws have staged an unlawful armed takeover of an area that serves all. Closed it until further notice.

Take all the time you need, folks.

These bullies have stepped right past you and the legislative process and they have their own army.

Your anger is not being encouraged. The airwaves aren’t FILLED with fear-mongering about the violence spreading to other cities – even though THAT THREAT IS REAL. How about the inconvenience to the non-protesting citizens, the tax dollars wasted on this?

This is not brought to a speedy end. We are settling in.

You don’t have to explain why to me. I live here too.

I am trying to get you to notice two aspects.

1. Social engineering at work. How we perceive events in our world (or don’t) is managed and steered. Question where your attention is directed.
2. Why anyone who loves ALL people understands the reason that the slogan is BLACKlivesmatter.

For me to concern myself with the cause of these men, I would have to know that me and mine have the right to protest over not loss of land, but loss of life….and that our lives would be protected and our situation viewed in proper perspective – and not fear-of-a-black-planet perspective, either.

I am not even saying I disagree with how this is being handled. I just wish I could count on the same care being given to my concerns.

So, whose life do you NOT mess with?
Ah. We see. And who brings the real threat of a lawless society?

Yahoos in Deliverance Country

Saw this exchange on a friend’s page. It’s between one born Southerner (B) and one transplant living in the South (A). I needed to take it on a tangent, so I will do it here.
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Party A: Saw somewhere that states with higher wages and taxes were doing a lot better than down here in Deliverance country and states.
Party B: “Deliverance country “? And people wonder why Trump was elected?
Party A: Yeah, folks like you who are permanently fooled and scammed.
Party B: I rest my case, sir. You are, if nothing else, consistent.
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Me: I’ll tell you what serves no one: these lighthearted sweeping slanderous generalizations like ‘Deliverance country’, and related references to incest, etc., when talking about people who live in the South – or for that matter, in rural areas, period.
 
This entire country has issues with race from coast to ever-lovin’ coast. Now. Today. It’s everything from willful ignorance (because we can), to casually minimizing the factor it plays in daily life (denial), to in-your-face hate or behind-your-back hate.
 
But the rest of the country gets to routinely scapegoat the South and rural areas, and tell some fantastical story about the nobility of the North that caused the slave trade (in its previous form) to be repealed. The rest of the country gets to brush all the dirt onto the South and on people who live closer to nature.
 
ALL living in the South are habitually patronized and insulted by the rest of the country like it’s nothing – blacks for over-emphasis on the church and family (which originated for excellent reasons) and whites for an assumption of right-wing politics and lack of INTELLIGENCE.
 
And don’t forget – a Southern accent or dialect = lack of education. C’mon, non-Southerners, you know I’m right.
 
This goes on among academics who know better. It IS a factor in the currently decried ‘elitism’ and too, in the casual corruption that Trump voters rallied against.
 
I say Black Lives Matter because OF COURSE all lives matter, you blockheads! And I fight for it every day. We must fight for oppressed peoples. That is the dealbreaker for me. That’s BECAUSE all lives matter.
 
But it is not the dealbreaker for some of the Trump voters, who see all the same corruption, ignorance and patronization that I see in the mainstream. Some of the Trump voters are just who they are played out to be. It’s true. The ones that assaulted or supported the assault of innocents in the rallies – the silent cheerers.

And Trump himself – the biggest liar of all, gets to play the role of truth-teller. Don’t get me started. I’ll get sick to my stomach.

But there are others whose privilege makes it so that the lying and stealing in corporate America is all they see. The shenanigans that were exposed. The hypocrisy. These thought they were casting a protest vote against it. An F U vote. I hate it. I tried to stop it. But it was.

 
It’s the divide-and-conquer press narrative that creates the mentality. Allies go unrecognized where they exist. It all encourages this ‘anything but the status quo’ for some voters.
 
The us and them. Minds that could be opened go unchanged. Dialogues fail to occur. Prejudice (pre-judging) rules the day, the week, the month and the year. Opportunities to craft new solutions recede into the distance. Us and them. 
 
The South is amazing. There is nothing wrong with prizing nature in more than cerebral way, and claiming it as home. She is the birthright of us all. There are safe enclaves across the country, from coast to coast, including the South. There are areas that seem safe, where terrible things occur – all across this country. People ARE people.
 
From the Dream Defenders, to Rev. Barber, to Brittany “Bree” Newsome, the Sacrificial Poets, just the tiniest drops in the ocean of today’s leaders, visionaries and prophets spawned in the warmer climes of the USA. They are just the very first that pop into my mind.
Some of the finest historically black college and universities in the country are in the South. Where do you think these fine minds reside? Don’t flatter yourself. Many stay in the South.
 
It doesn’t help.
“Deliverance country”. “Those yahoos.” 
It doesn’t help.
That’s all I’m saying and I am sure someone else could say it much better.
But I think about it often.